A Brief Synopsis of the Laws and Customs of Tisha B’Av

Tisha B'Av Destruction of the Temple of Jerusalem by Francesco Hayez
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The final meal before the fast is called Se’oudah HaMafseqet (סעודה מפסקת). Generally we are only allowed to eat one cooked food at this meal, usually rice and lentils or a hard boiled egg and a piece of bread. Since this year this meal will be on Shabbat itself, we are not to display any of these mourning signs at all. One is to eat a complete meal at the dining room table and we are even permitted to eat meat and drink wine and even make the meal large and festive similar to the feast that King Solomon would have when he reigned.

As we know, we are not permitted to wear leather shoes on Tisha B’Av. What are we to do if Shabbat ends and Tisha B’Av begins?

Generally we would change footwear at sunset but because of Shabbat we wait and do not remove our leather shoes until after Set HaKokhabim (the stars come out). At that point we remove our leather shoes and put on non-leather shoes and we change into non-Shabbat clothing. At that point Shabbat is definitely over and you can even drive to kenis to pray arbit and read Eikhah and qinot.

We do not make regular habdalah on Saturday night. We just say Atah Honantanou in the Amidah. Then after the Amidah we just light the candle and say the Berakhah of Bore Meore HaEsh. We do not say Hagefen, we do not say Besamim, we do not say Hamabdil.

On Sunday night when the fast is over then we take a cup of wine and say Bore Feri HaGefen and Hamabdil, but no Besamim.

Those people who are permitted to eat on Tisha B’Av (such as a woman who has given birth within 30 days of the fast) must make habdalah on a cup of wine before eating.

When the fast is over, you wash your hands. The ONLY BRAKHA is over the wine and you complete Havdalah with the singing of Hamavdil.

The Sages have said: “Five events occurred to our fathers on the ninth of Av.”

“It was decreed that the generation-of-the-wilderness should not enter the Land of Israel, as it is written , “Not a man of these men , of this evil generation, will see the land.”

The first sanctuary was destroyed.

The second sanctuary was destroyed.

Betar was captured.

Jerusalem was plowed through after the Destruction, as it is written: “Zion shall be plowed like a field.”

Another calamity was the expulsion of the Jews of Spain.

THE GENERATION-OF-THE-WILDERNESS

On the eight of Av, after spying on the Land of Israel for forty days, the twelve spies chosen from among the best of their tribes returned to the people .They spoke of the land as one that ”devours its inhabitants,” where men are giants and where even the produce of the land is out of the ordinary, witness the bunch of grapes that it took two men to carry it. Upon hearing their report the people became scared and cried out in anguish all night. On Tish’a B’av, angered by their lack of faith in His Providence God decreed that since “You wept without reason, I will fix for you a weeping for generations,” and all males between the ages of 20 and 60 will die in the Wilderness.

Despondent to hear they will not see the Promised Land and that they will die in the wilderness Korah incited the princes and the mighty to rebel against Moses and Aharon. The earth swallowed Korah, and 14,000 people perished in the uprising.

On the 17th of Elul, forty days after they slandered the land all the spies died with the exception of Joshua and Caleb who exhorted the people to have faith in God.

THE FIRST SANCTUARY WAS DESTROYED

“For eighteen years a Bat Kol or Voice from Heaven voice sounded in Nebuchanetzar’s palace: ”Wicked servant! Go up and destroy the House-of-Your-Master, since His sons do not obey Him.” But Nebuchanetzar refused to obey lest he be defeated by the Jews as his grandfather Sanncheriv. Instead, he sent Nevuzaradan, the chief butcher to destroy Jerusalem. He laid siege to the city for three and a half years without success. He wanted to turn back but God put it in his heart to measure the height of the wall. He began to measure the wall and found that each day the wall sank into the ground at a rate of two and a half tefachim (handbreadths) till it sank entirely. When it had sunk completely, the enemies entered Jerusalem” where they faced fierce resistance.


On Tish’a B’Av they finally reached the Sanctuary. Tearing apart the parochet or curtains that separated the Holy of Holies from the rest of the sanctuary, they found the Holy Ark containing the Tablets of the Ten Commandments. The gold Cherubim or angels that adorned its cover and stood at each end of the Holy Ark, wings extended upward, had miraculously reached out to one another and forehead to forehead embraced each other, their wings enfolding them.


King Tzidkiyahu and his sons were taken prisoners by Nevuzaradan as they tried to flee to Jericho. He sent them to Nevuchanetzar who asked:” By what law shall I judge you?” Tzidkiyahu replied: “Slay me first so that I might not see the blood of my sons.”


His sons requested: ” Slay us first, so that we might not see the blood of our father.” Nevuchanetzar slew Tzidkiyahu’s sons before him, then gouged out his eyes which he threw in an oven.


Jeremiah is the prophet who foretold all these calamities to the King and Israel. He followed his people into exile and then returned to Jerusalem to console the remnant of Israel.. His Book of Lamentations or Kinnot, written in acrostic form, is an eyewitness account of the devastation of the Land, of the sufferings of the people dying of hunger and thirst, walking a trail of blood and tears. Kinnot are chanted in a mournful tune by the congregants who are seated on the floor.

DESTRUCTION OF THE SECOND TEMPLE

Judea had been a thorn in the side of the Roman Empire for many years. Governors and military men were sent there to quell the numerous uprisings but met with limited success. When Vespasian returned to Rome after a triumphal campaign in England, he was the natural choice of the Roman Senate which dispatched him to the Holy Land. He laid siege to Jerusalem for three years finally conquering it.


In the mean time Rome torn by civil war and unrest successively elected three emperors in three years. Although it professed to be a democracy, military power seemed to be the only solution, and Vespasian was summoned to come back at once. He named his son Titus as his replacement. After fierce battles Titus finally entered the Sanctuary. Taking a” prostitute by the hand, he entered the Holy of Holies, spread out a scroll of the Torah and committed a sin upon it.”

Gathering all the utensils of the Sanctuary in the Parochet or curtain he set sails for Rome.


“An Echo-of-a-Voice or Bat Kol said to him:” Wicked one! I have a tiny creature in My world which is called a fly. Go up to the dry ground and wage war with her.”


When he arrived in Rome, he was greeted with honors and praise by his compatriots, and as he reveled in his triumph a fly entered his nose and bored in his brain for seven years.


When he died, they opened his brain and found in it the likeness of a bird. At the time of his death, Titus issued an order to scatter his ashes over the seven seas, so that the God of the Jews should not find me and subject me to judgement .”

THE FALL OF BETAR

Although Jerusalem had been destroyed and salt poured over its razed foundations, Israel continued to defy Rome. In the city of Betar a soldier by the name of Bar Koziba challenged the men who wanted to join his army to sever their own finger. 200,000 men severed their fingers. When the rabbis reproached him to make cripples out of the men he asked. ” How then shall they be tested”. They replied: “ Whoever cannot uproot a cedar from Lebanon while riding on his horse shall not be enrolled in your army”. 200,000 men passed the test. Superior in strength and numbers, Bar Koziba’s men inflicted heavy losses upon the 80,000 horn blowers (officers) surrounding Betar.


A legend was born. When rabbi Akiva saw him he said: “ A star has darted out of Jacob. Koziba has darted out of Jacob –he is the Messiah. He shall be known as Bar Kokhba (son of the star).

Hadrian laid siege to Betar for three and a half years, and Betar was still defiant.

One day a Kutite came to him and said: “As long as Rabbi Elazar Hamodai , this rooster wallows in ashes, you cannot conquer Betar. Wait for me and I shall enable you to conquer it today.”

He entered Betar and found rabbi Elazar praying. Approaching him he pretended to whisper in his ear. People thinking that Rabbi Elazar was plotting against Bar Koziba went to inform him that he had been talking to a Kutite. Bar Koziba summoned him at once: “what were you whispering in my uncle’s ear.” The Kutite answered: “Should I tell you, Hadrian will put me to death and should I not tell you, you will put me to death. Better that I should take my own life.”

Bar Koziba sent for his uncle and asked: “What did the Kutite whisper in your ear?”

Rabbi Elazar replied: “ I could not hear what he said as I was praying.”

Furious Bar Koziba kicked once and killed him.

An Echo-of-a-Voice said to him: “You broke the arm of Israel. Therefore your arm shall become dry and your right eye shall become dim.”

Betar fell on the 9th of Av and Bar Koziba was slain.

They brought his head to Hadrian who asked to see his body. They found a snake wrapped around his neck. Hadrian said :’Were it not that God killed him, who could have killed him?”

The Romans entered Betar , and the blood flowed till their horses waded in it. Hadrian forbade that they be buried and ordered that their piled corpses be used as a fence for his vineyard . It was not until a new king arose seven years later that they were finally buried on the 15th of Av. Miraculously their bodies did not decompose.

THE EXPULSION FROM SPAIN

In February 1492 (1st of Adar 5252) Ferdinand of Aragon decreed that the Jews must leave Spain within three months “which are to begin on the 1st of May and are to end on the last of July”. Don Isaac Abarbanel an influential Jew who was the financier and counselor of the Kings of Spain wrote : ‘It turned out that the day set for the departure of the Jews from Spain was the 9th of Av. But the king did not know the character of the day when he issued his edict. It was as if he had had been led from above to fix this time”.

Three hundred thousand Jews left Spain rather than convert. Their torment had only begun. Pirates attacked their boats, capturing them to sell them as slaves; very often the captains they had entrusted with their lives would betray them, throwing them overboard or leaving them stranded in isolated lands.
Only the sultan of Turkey had mercy on them. Aware of the wealth of talent and knowledge they represented he sent a flotilla to rescue them, unfortunately many of the boats capsized in heavy seas. The Jews who made it to Morocco were welcomed back to the land they had left in 711.

The first Shabbat after the 9th of Av is called Shabbat Nahamu after the first words of the Haftarah “Nahamu, nahamu ami… Console, console my people.”

It is the first of the Seven Haftarot of Consolation which are all excerpted from the writings of the Prophet Isaiah. These Haftarot contain 144 verses of consolation which offset the 143 verses of admonition of the Torah.

THE 15TH OF AV

Several events occurred on that day.

Death ceased for the generation-of-the-wilderness
Repeal of the ban against intermarriage with the tribe of Benjamin
The 15th of Av is like Yom Kippur
The day on which Hosea ben Elah removed the roadblocks
The day on which cutting of wood for the Altar ceased
The slain of Betar

Death ceased for the generation-of-the-wilderness

Every year since the report of the Spies, approximately 15,000 men between the ages of 20 and 60 would die on the9th of Av. On Erev Tish’a B’Av they would dig their graves and lay in them. In the morning the survivors would bury those who had died and so it went on for 39 years. On the 40th year as usual the men dug their graves anticipating their deaths. But in the morrow none had died. Fearing the Elders had made a mistake in their calculations relative to the 9th of Av, that night they went to sleep in their graves. In the morrow , none had died. They repeated the ritual until one night the full moon appeared to them. It was the 15th of Av. They understood then that no mistake had been made; they had been given a reprieve by God and they celebrated the gift of their lives.

Repeal of the ban

On their way home a Levite, his concubine and their servant arrived in Give’a a town that belonged to the tribe of Benjamin. There an old man offered them the hospitality of his home. After partaking of the meal their host graciously set before them they were ready to go to bed. The silence of the night was shattered by loud banging on the door. A crowd had formed outside the house demanding that the host hand over his male guest “that they may know him”. The host refused to let them commit such an abomination and offered instead to give them his virgin daughter as well as the man’s concubine. The concubine was taken out of the house and given to the crowd that dishonored her. The following morning the Levite gathered his concubine and servant and went home. There He dismembered his wife into 12 parts which he sent to every tribe. Appalled by the actions of the Benjamines the 11 tribes banished the tribe, vowing not to give any of their daughters to their sons. The ban was eventually lifted and it happened on the 15th of Av.

15th of Av equal to Yom Kippur

By sparing the lives of the 15,000 men doomed to die in the Wilderness God showed them forgiveness and compassion as He does at Yom Kipur.

Hosea

Yeroboam, king of Israel forbade his people to worship at the Temple of Jerusalem. To achieve his goal he built roadblocks and erected two gold calves for them to worship. Three hundred years later, king Hosea removed the roadblocks and allowed the people to resume the pilgrimage to Jerusalem.

Cutting the wood of the altar

The 15th of Av was the last day when cutting wood for the altar was allowed. After that no wood could be brought to the Temple as it was feared that the wood may not cure properly and worms might infect it, rendering it unfit to be used on the altar

Slain of Betar

Hadrian or Adrianus fenced in his immense vineyard with the corpses of the Jews he massacred at the fall of Betar. Miraculously, say the rabbis, the corpses did not decompose and on the 15th of Av they were given proper burial.

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Mourner’s Kaddish (Kaddish Yatom), traditionally said by mourners––that is, those who have lost a parent during the previous eleven months or a child, sibling, or spuce during the last thirty days––and by those observing the anniversary of the death of those close relatives. (In many contemporary communities, the full congregation says it in support of the mourners, and in memory of the six million Jews who perished during the Holocaust, assuming that at least one died on any given day.) The mourners Kaddish omits lines 7 and 8 of the Full Kaddish that asks God to answer our prayers, because presumably, God did not grant the mourner’s prayers that the relative recover and live).
אבל: יִתְגַּדַּל וְיִתְקַדַּשׁ שְׁמֵהּ רַבָּא
[קהל: אמן] בְּעָלְמָא דִּי בְרָא כִרְעוּתֵהּ וְיַמְלִיךְ מַלְכוּתֵהּ בְּחַיֵּיכון וּבְיומֵיכון וּבְחַיֵּי דְכָל בֵּית יִשרָאֵל בַּעֲגָלָא וּבִזְמַן קָרִיב, וְאִמְרוּ אָמֵן: [קהל: אמן] קהל ואבל: יְהֵא שְׁמֵהּ רַבָּא מְבָרַךְ לְעָלַם וּלְעָלְמֵי עָלְמַיָּא אבל: יִתְבָּרַךְ וְיִשְׁתַּבַּח וְיִתְפָּאַר וְיִתְרומַם וְיִתְנַשּא וְיִתְהַדָּר וְיִתְעַלֶּה וְיִתְהַלָּל שְׁמֵהּ דְּקֻדְשָׁא. בְּרִיךְ הוּא. [קהל: בריך הוא:] לְעֵלָּא מִן כָּל בִּרְכָתָא בעשי”ת: לְעֵלָּא לְעֵלָּא מִכָּל וְשִׁירָתָא תֻּשְׁבְּחָתָא וְנֶחֱמָתָא דַּאֲמִירָן בְּעָלְמָא. וְאִמְרוּ אָמֵן: [קהל: אמן] יְהֵא שְׁלָמָא רַבָּא מִן שְׁמַיָּא וְחַיִּים עָלֵינוּ וְעַל כָּל יִשרָאֵל. וְאִמְרוּ אָמֵן: [קהל: אמן] עושה שָׁלום בִּמְרומָיו הוּא יַעֲשה שָׁלום עָלֵינוּ וְעַל כָּל יִשרָאֵל וְאִמְרוּ אָמֵן: [קהל: אמן]

וְזֹ֖את הַתּוֹרָ֑ה אֲשֶׁר־שָׂ֣ם מֹשֶׁ֔ה לִפְנֵ֖י בְּנֵ֥י יִשְׂרָאֵֽל׃ תּוֹרָ֥ה צִוָּה־לָ֖נוּ מֹשֶׁ֑ה מוֹרָשָׁ֖ה קְהִלַּ֥ת יַעֲקֹֽב׃ הָאֵל֮ תָּמִ֢ים דַּ֫רְכּ֥וֹ אִמְרַֽת־יְהֹוָ֥ה צְרוּפָ֑ה מָגֵ֥ן ה֝֗וּא לְכֹ֤ל ׀ הַחֹסִ֬ים בּֽוֹ׃

Before reading the Torah:
הַשֵּׁם עִמָּכֶם.
יְבָרֶכְךָ הַשֵּׁם.
 

 .בָּרְכוּ אֶת יְהֹוָה הַמְּבֹרָךְ
.בָּרוּךְ יְהֹוָה הַמְּבֹרָךְ לְעוֹלָם וָעֶד
.בָּרוּךְ יְהֹוָה הַמְּבֹרָךְ לְעוֹלָם וָעֶד

בָּרוּךְ אַתָּה יְהֹוָה, אֱלֹהֵינוּ מֶלֶךְ הָעוֹלָם, אֲשֶׁר בָּחַר בָּנוּ מִכָּל הָעַמִּים וְנָתַן לָנוּ אֶת תּוֹרָתוֹ. בָּרוּךְ אַתָּה יְהֹוָה, נוֹתֵן הַתּוֹרָה:
 אמן.

After reading the Torah:

בָּרוּךְ אַתָּה יְהֹוָה, אֱלֹהֵינוּ מֶלֶךְ הָעוֹלָם, אֲשֶׁר נָתַן לָנוּ אֶת תּוֹרָתוֹ תּוֹרַת אֱמֶת, וְחַיֵּי עוֹלָם נָטַע בְּתוֹכֵנוּ. בָּרוּךְ אַתָּה יְהֹוָה, נוֹתֵן הַתּוֹרָה:
אמן.

Beracha recited before the reading of the Haftara:

Mi Sheberach, the Jewish prayer for healing, is one of the most meaningful prayers in Judaism. It is a public prayer or blessing for an individual or group, most often recited in synagogue when the Torah is being read. 

He who blessed our fathers Abraham, Isaac and Jacob, Moses and Aaron, David and Solomon, may he heal ___ who is ill. May the Holy One, blessed be he, have mercy and speedily restore him to perfect health, both spiritual and physical; and let us say, Amen.

מִי שֶׁבֵּרַךְ אֲבוֹתֵֽינוּ, אַבְרָהָם יִצְחָק וְיַעֲקֹב, משֶׁה וְאַהֲרֹן, דָּוִד וּשְׁלֹמֹה, הוּא יְבָרֵךְ וִירַפֵּא אֶת הַחוֹלֶה ___. הַקָּדוֹשׁ בָּרוּךְ הוּא יִמָּלֵא רַחֲמִים עָלָיו לְהַחֲלִימוֹ וּלְרַפֹּאתוֹ, לְהַחֲזִיקוֹ וּלְהַחֲיוֹתוֹ, וְיִשְׁלַח לוֹ מְהֵרָה רְפוּאָה שְׁלֵמָה, רְפוּאַת הַנֶּֽפֶשׁ וּרְפוּאַת הַגּוּף; וְנֹאמַר אָמֵן.

Tefilat HaDerech (Hebrew: תפילת הדרך), also known as the Traveler’s Prayer or Wayfarer’s Prayer in English, is a prayer for safe travel recited by Jews when traveling by air, sea, or long car trips. It is recited at the start of every journey, preferably standing, but this is not required. It is frequently inscribed on hamsas, which may also include the Shema or Birkat HaBayit prayer.

In the “Blessing of Thanksgiving” (Birkat HaGomel), persons in four different categories should express gratitude to God for His compassion toward them:
One who has done one of the following: a) traveled across the ocean (by an international flight, etc.); b) traversed the desert; c) recovered from a very serious illness; d) been released from prison.
All other potentially fatal circumstances that one escapes, such as a wall crumbling on him, an ox goring him, thieves, auto accidents, etc., fall under the category of desert.

The reader recites:

בָּרוּךְ אַתָּה ה’ אֱלֹהֵינוּ מֶלֶךְ הָעוֹלָם הַגּוֹמֵל לְחַיָּבִים טוֹבוֹת שֶׁגְּמָלַנִי כָּל טוֹב.

 
The congregations responds:

מִי שֶׁגְמַלְךָ כֹּל טוֹב הוּא יִגְמַלְךָ כֹּל טוֹב סֶלָה.

NameSymbolSephardi
Sof passukב׃‎סוֹף פָּסֽוּק‎
Sof pasuk
Etnachtaב֑‎אַתְנָ֑ח‎
Atnaḥ
Segolב֒‎סְגוֹלְתָּא֒‎
Segolta
Shalsheletב֓‎שַׁלְשֶׁ֓לֶת‎
Šalšeleþ
Zakef katanב֔‎זָקֵף קָט֔וֹן‎
Záqéf Qáţown
Zakef gadolב֕‎זָקֵף גָּד֕וֹל‎
Záqéf Ggádowl
Tifchaב֖‎טַרְחָ֖א‎
Tarḥa
Riviaב֗‎רְבִ֗יע‎
Revia
Zarkaב֮‎זַרְקָא֮‎
Zarqa
Pashtaב֙‎קַדְמָא֙‎
Qadma
Shene pashtinב֨‎ב֙‎תְּרֵ֨י קַדְמִין֙‎
Tere qadmin
Yetivב֚‎יְ֚תִיב‎
Yetiv
Tevirב֛‎תְּבִ֛יר‎
Tviyr
Pazerב֡‎פָּזֶר גָּד֡וֹל‎
Pazer gadol
Qarne farahב֟‎קַרְנֵי פָרָ֟ה‎
Qarne farah
Telisha gedolaב֠‎תִּ֠רְצָה‎
Tirtzah
Gereshב֜‎גְּרִ֜ישׁ‎
Gerish
Gershayimב֞‎שְׁנֵי גְרִישִׁ֞ין‎
Shene gerishin
Munachב׀‎פָּסֵ֣ק׀‎
Paseq
Merchaב֥‎מַאֲרִ֥יךְ‎
Maarich
Munachב֣‎שׁוֹפָר הוֹלֵ֣ךְ‎
Shofar holech
Mahpachב֤‎‏(שׁוֹפָר) מְהֻפָּ֤ךְ‎
(Shofar) mehuppach
Dargaב֧‎דַּרְגָּ֧א‎
Ddarggá
Kadmaב֨‎אַזְלָ֨א or קַדְמָ֨א‎
Azla or Qadma[18]
Telisha ketanaב֩‎תַּלְשָׁא֩‎
Talsha
Mercha kefulaב֦‎תְּרֵי טַעֲמֵ֦י‎
Tere ta’ame
Yerach ben yomoב֪‎יֵרֶח בֶּן יוֹמ֪וֹ‎
Yeraḥ ben yomo

Spanish-Portuguese custom

זַרְקָא֮ מַקַּף־שׁוֹפָר־הוֹלֵ֣ךְ סְגוֹלְתָּא֒ פָּזֵר גָּד֡וֹל תַ֠לְשָׁא תִּ֩ילְשָׁא אַזְלָ֨א גֵּ֜רֵישׁ פָּסֵק  ׀  רָבִ֗יעַ שְׁנֵי־גֵרֵישִׁ֞ין דַּרְגָ֧א תְּבִ֛יר מַאֲרִ֥יךְ טַרְחָ֖א אַתְנָ֑ח שׁוֹפָר־מְהֻפָּ֤ךְ קַדְמָא֙ תְּרֵ֨י־קַדְמִין֙ זָקֵף־קָט֔וֹן זָקֵף־גָּד֕וֹל שַׁלְשֶׁ֓לֶת תְּרֵי־טַעֲמֵ֦י יְ֚תִיב סוֹף־פָּסֽוּק׃

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